tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post1198156372978185360..comments2024-02-01T17:19:36.475-05:00Comments on My heart goes out...: AnniversaryCarolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14545146592743875490noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-76842023999543723172009-03-27T03:02:00.000-04:002009-03-27T03:02:00.000-04:00Hi Carol-I am late to comment to this, and so sorr...Hi Carol-<BR/><BR/>I am late to comment to this, and so sorry. I thought and thought about what to say, how to comfort to you, how to show I understand. But everything I wrote sounded so trite and limited.<BR/><BR/>What it all boils down to is that you are a very kind person who has been hurt down to the core, but somehow chosen to go on without bitterness and hate. And I am so glad that we get to know you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-21902992431295166962009-03-25T10:25:00.000-04:002009-03-25T10:25:00.000-04:00Carol, You are a very wise woman. Even though you ...Carol, <BR/>You are a very wise woman. <BR/>Even though you know that your hoping and dreaming could not change your husband. You know that it is important to be aware fo the pain that comes from borken dreams and hopes. <BR/>God's presence is the best place to work through all this stuff.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-59046066344675949192009-03-23T20:14:00.000-04:002009-03-23T20:14:00.000-04:00Carol,Sending hugs and love your way. i have no id...Carol,<BR/><BR/>Sending hugs and love your way. i have no idea what it must be like for you going through this but thank you for sharing your heart with us. Through authenticity comes healing in my opinion. i don't have the answers for you but keep up the great way you honestly express yourself and NEVER worry if you are sharing too much. It's your story and your experience and you have every right to share as much or as little as you like!<BR/><BR/>i am so sorry our Christian culture forces people into the closet and then a by product of that is hurting people like you.<BR/><BR/>Peace,<BR/><BR/>AdeleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-16772484377380692962009-03-23T14:31:00.000-04:002009-03-23T14:31:00.000-04:00thinking of you today, and sending a whole lot of ...thinking of you today, and sending a whole lot of love.ohchickenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16965782534798318412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-90222650374270637882009-03-23T12:46:00.000-04:002009-03-23T12:46:00.000-04:00I'm glad you have the gumption to be honest and to...I'm glad you have the gumption to be honest and to name the hurt and grief that you feel. My first inclination (like I'm sure you've experienced when others are honest about their pain) is to figure out how to move in, come alongside and ease the pain. And we often stumble clumsily in attempting that.<BR/><BR/>But the pain couldn't be without the years of memories of good -- so pain it is. My heart aches with you.Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06559254262445527142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-85315757184966001932009-03-22T21:49:00.000-04:002009-03-22T21:49:00.000-04:00This is so beautiful and heart-breaking and authen...This is so beautiful and heart-breaking and authentic. Thank you for sharing it. And thank you for sharing your courage and love as well. That you love Ray enough to be honest about your heart-break EVEN while supporting him and advocating for gay-rights--it is beautiful and so holy.Muser Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03619098935024377476noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-71842644317083622312009-03-22T20:17:00.000-04:002009-03-22T20:17:00.000-04:00Carol,I can't imagine what you are going through, ...Carol,<BR/>I can't imagine what you are going through, but thank you for sharing your self and being real. Your blog has meant so much to me since I discovered it. Love to you.<BR/><BR/>Angieangiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05700954361319873895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-21600986552865704752009-03-22T20:03:00.000-04:002009-03-22T20:03:00.000-04:00Hi Carol,I'm new here, and I'm a complete stranger...Hi Carol,<BR/><BR/>I'm new here, and I'm a complete stranger, but I love reading your blog, and deeply appreciate your openness as well as the grace and compassion you display.<BR/><BR/>May God send you the kind of comfort and encouragement that will best meet your need today and throughout the week. Don't doubt for a minute that your willingness to share openly is very powerful, and will surely make a difference. <BR/><BR/>I'm sorry today hurts. : (Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-57849351895613256772009-03-22T19:22:00.000-04:002009-03-22T19:22:00.000-04:00Thanks, Kat and Karen. I'm feeling better as the ...Thanks, Kat and Karen. I'm feeling better as the day progresses, but it never goes away - and Kat, I wish I knew how better to support the spouses. I stand up for ALL of us who are caught in this situation. Some of us look okay, and are still hurting a lot. I'm glad for those who share on this blog - I'm grateful for the support. Immense thanks. :)Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14545146592743875490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-7744614172295718822009-03-22T19:02:00.000-04:002009-03-22T19:02:00.000-04:00Sending hugs, Carol! I pray that not only does Go...Sending hugs, Carol! I pray that not only does God comfort you but sends flesh-and-blood people to be there for you in person. The glbt community MUST do a better job of surrounding the straight spouses with love and support. We are severely lacking in this area. While the gay community tends to jump for joy at the one who has 'embraced' his/her gay-ness at long last, the spouse is toooo often left alone with unimaginable pain. Where's the party for them? My girlfriend and I feel a tremendous desire to be of help and to educate others of 'us' as to the need.<BR/>Love, KatKathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06660392650527314409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6023809369245556096.post-40842326068869900502009-03-22T15:29:00.000-04:002009-03-22T15:29:00.000-04:00Carol, I have been reading your blog for awhile no...Carol, <BR/><BR/>I have been reading your blog for awhile now and have been thinging about posting a comment. That can wait now. <BR/><BR/> Only you can decide if this is too personal, but I thank you for sharing it. The sin of the church in denying the rich diversity of God's creation brings only pain. I am so sorry you (and your family) are haveing to live with this. You are in my thoughts and prayers. <BR/><BR/>KarenKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12752647845657172289noreply@blogger.com